Who this is for

6 things that are probably true about you.

• Your career and your life are handled. Dating is the one part that isn't.
• Your dates end with her saying "I'm not feeling a spark with you".
• You get the Hinge/Tinder match but getting her out and keeping her interested feels impossible.
• You're done chasing women who give you nothing back.
• You want to approach women, but hesitate and talk yourself out of it every single time.
• You want more options and more dates, not one long shot you keep waiting on.

What is actually going on

You think she's above you.

• Before contact

  You see her, you calculate, you decide it is not worth the risk, and you keep walking.

• Over text

  You write it, soften it, delete it, and let her set the pace of everything.

• On the date

  You interview her. You stay agreeable. And most of all, you never escalate.

• At the moment

  There is an opening and you let it pass, then replay it the entire drive home.

My story

I thought the problem was not having enough. So I fixed that. Got in shape, built a career, bought the things that were supposed to matter. Still couldn't find dates, and when I did, they went nowhere. None of it was the problem. Women will tell you they want the job, the height, the look. Truth is, they don't know what they want until it's standing in front of them.

It's energy and tension. Took me five years to build it. Two more teaching other men. I do this for the guys who never get a chance, because for a long time, neither did I.

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The work

Four weeks, in order.

1. 01

   Diagnosis

   We go through your actual history in detail. Recent dates, recent texts, the times you did nothing. The goal is to find the exact point where everything breaks.

2. 02

   The mechanism

   Why you rank her above you, and what that ranking is protecting you from. Then how to catch it while it is happening rather than afterwards.

3. 03

   The field

   You go out and run reps. Real approaches, in person, that week. You report each one back and we review it individually. No theory this week.

4. 04

   Detachment and filtering

   Getting the outcome of any single interaction to stop carrying weight, then turning it around so you are the one deciding who is worth your time.